High tea might evoke visions of dainty chinaware, tiered cake stands, and the comforting aroma of freshly brewed tea. Yet, there’s so much more to this delightful tradition—especially here in Australia. Over the years, us here at Onstage have organised countless events in the hospitality and entertainment industries, and we’ve seen how Aussies have wholeheartedly embraced and adapted this classic British custom to suit our relaxed yet refined lifestyle.

Read on for insights on high tea’s origins, the essential etiquette, menu planning, dress codes, and entertainment ideas to help you host a memorable high tea for such a great guest experience your guests will be raving about long after the last teacup is empty.

High Tea: History & Significance

What Exactly Is High Tea?

Historically, “high tea” in Britain referred to a hearty early evening meal enjoyed by the working class. It usually consisted of more substantial fare—think meat pies, cold meats, and heavy breads—and it was served at a higher dining table, hence the term “high tea.” In contrast, the upper classes had their “afternoon tea” or “low tea,” typically served in the mid-afternoon at lower coffee tables in elegant drawing rooms.

Over time, the lines between the two became blurred, especially outside the UK. Hotels and eateries in many countries began using the phrase “high tea” to describe a luxurious mid-afternoon experience with delicate finger foods, scones, and sweets, often served buffet table style. This rebranding—while not historically accurate—caught on, and we continue to see it in Australia today.

Why Do Australians Call It High Tea?

Here in Australia, the term “high tea” has evolved beyond its original British meaning. Many local cafés, restaurants, and hotels market their afternoon tea offerings as “high tea” to convey a sense of prestige and indulgence. It suggests a more formal or celebratory occasion- from corporate events and functions to engagement parties and baby showers- involving a multi-tiered stand laden with intricate pastries, gourmet sandwiches, and an array of teas (often with a sneaky glass of bubbles on the side).

In other words, we’ve adopted the name and made it our own. And that’s perfectly fine! Part of Australia’s charm lies in taking a tradition, giving it a bit of a twist, and making it feel fresh and inviting.

Is High Tea a British Thing?

Strictly speaking, high tea in its traditional form has British roots. However, the refined midday or mid-afternoon tea many of us envisage—complete with scones, clotted cream, and petit fours—is actually closer to British “afternoon tea.” Despite the nomenclature, in Australia (and many other parts of the world), when you see an establishment advertising “high tea,” what you’ll likely get is an upscale version of afternoon tea/tea garden party type event.

It’s still a sophisticated, celebratory affair. And these days, it’s undeniably part of Australian social culture, too.

Rules and Etiquette for High Tea

What Are the Rules for High Tea?

When hosting a high tea, the aim is to create an atmosphere of refined relaxation. There aren’t strict laws—only guidelines that help you and your guests enjoy the experience. Here are some essentials:

1. Teacup Etiquette: Hold the teacup by pinching your thumb and index finger around the handle, with your middle finger resting under the handle for support. Avoid lifting your pinky—despite popular belief, it’s considered pretentious rather than posh.
2. Stirring: When stirring your tea, move the spoon gently back and forth (or in a small circular motion if you prefer) without clinking it noisily against the cup. Remove the spoon and place it on the saucer to the right of the cup.
3. Order of Food: Traditionally, you start with savoury items (finger sandwiches, quiches), move on to scones, and then finish with sweets. Australians often adapt this sequence, but sticking to the classic order ensures palates are primed for each course.
4. Pacing: High tea is meant to be leisurely. Encourage guests to take their time, enjoying both the flavours and the conversation.

High Tea Etiquette for Ladies

While high tea is for everyone, there are a few extra touches sometimes associated with a “ladies’ gathering”:

• Dress Appropriately
  Opt for something a little more polished than casual daywear. A dress or a smart outfit in a relaxed yet elegant style is typical. (We’ll cover more on dress codes soon.)
• Mind Your Posture
  Sit upright, keep your elbows off the table, and engage in friendly, inclusive conversation. High tea is as much about social connection as it is about the food.
• Napkin Use
  Place your napkin on your lap as soon as you sit down. Use it to dab (not wipe) at your mouth. If you need to leave the table, loosely fold it and place it on your chair.
• Polite Conversation
  Light-hearted topics are usually best. While meaningful chats are encouraged, avoid controversial or overly personal subjects that might disturb the cheerful mood.

Planning the Perfect High Tea Menu

Traditional Favourites

A classic high tea menu is a delight for the senses, featuring an array of sweet and savoury treats. Some favourites include:

1. Finger Sandwiches
   Typically bite-sized and crustless, these are often filled with cucumber and cream cheese, smoked salmon, or egg mayonnaise. For an Australian twist, you might incorporate local ingredients like lemon myrtle-infused chicken or fresh avocado.
2. Scones
   The quintessential high tea staple! Serve them warm with jam and clotted cream (or double cream if clotted isn’t available). Strawberry jam is a go-to, but feel free to get creative with flavours like rosella jam or a local berry blend.
3. Sweets and Pastries
   Think mini tarts, slices of sponge cake, lamington bites, or dainty macarons. Variety is key—try to offer a mix of textures and flavours.
4. Quiches and Savoury Pastries
   Small quiches or mini pies are also popular. Classic fillings include spinach and feta or Lorraine (bacon and cheese). If you’re feeling adventurous, experiment with native Australian herbs like lemon myrtle or wattleseed in the pastry or filling.

Modern Twists

Australia’s diverse culinary scene lends itself beautifully to creative high tea menus. Consider:

• Gluten-Free and Vegan Options
  Offer alternatives for those with dietary restrictions. Gluten-free banana bread, vegan brownies, or tofu and vegetable skewers can add variety and inclusivity.
• Local Produce
  Incorporate seasonal fruit and vegetables from your region. Fresh berries and stone fruits add vibrant colour and natural sweetness to the table.
• Fusion Flavours
  Experiment with Asian-inspired savouries or Middle Eastern spices. Think mini bánh mì sliders or bite-sized falafels with tahini sauce. These modern twists can energise your menu and reflect Australia’s multicultural identity.

Beverage Selections

While tea is the star, a well-rounded high tea will offer a range of drinks:

1. Tea Varieties: Black, green, oolong, herbal, or fruity blends—have at least two or three options. Australian tea producers often source excellent leaves or craft unique herbal mixes featuring native botanicals like lemon myrtle or eucalyptus.
2. Sparkling Options: Champagne or sparkling wine can elevate the occasion. For a non-alcoholic alternative, consider a sparkling apple juice, a kombucha spritz, or a fruity mocktail.
3. Pairing Flavours: Encourage guests to experiment. For instance, a fragrant Earl Grey might pair wonderfully with lemon-based sweets, while a robust black tea is ideal for scones and jam.

Crafting the High Tea Experience

What Do People Do at High Tea?

A high tea is both a social and culinary affair. Typically, guests:

• Relax and Chat
  Good conversation is central—catch up on news, share stories, and enjoy each other’s company in a cosy yet refined setting.
• Savour Each Course
  High tea isn’t about scarfing down food quickly. The idea is to sample a variety of delicacies slowly and appreciate each bite (and sip).
• Celebrate Special Occasions
  Bridal showers, baby showers, birthdays, or even corporate gatherings—high tea offers a perfect blend of sophistication and festivity.

Setting the Scene: Ambience & Décor

High tea thrives on its theatrical elements. Paying attention to the visual details can transform a simple meal into a grand event:

1. Location: High tea can be enjoyed indoors or outdoors. An airy verandah, a manicured garden, or a lovely dining room with natural light sets the scene perfectly. Consider providing shade if you’re hosting in summer.
2. Table Settings: Elegant linens, beautiful napkins, and polished crockery elevate the experience. Mix and match vintage china for a charming, eclectic look, or keep it consistent with a modern minimalist vibe in matching porcelain.
3. Centrepieces: Fresh flowers—especially native Australian blooms like waratahs, banksias, or eucalyptus—add life and colour to the table. You can also incorporate small decorations like candles or a decorative tea set for an extra flourish.
4. Lighting and Music: Soft, warm lighting in the evening or natural sunlight during the day works wonders. Subtle background music can help set the mood without overpowering conversation.

What to Wear to High Tea in Australia?

In Australia, dress codes for high tea can range from smart casual to semi-formal, depending on the venue and the occasion. Here’s how to strike the right balance:

• Ladies
  A beautiful sundress or a polished blouse and skirt/trousers work well. Add a fascinator or a stylish hat if you want to channel a race-day vibe—particularly popular for events like Mother’s Day high teas or spring celebrations.
• Gentlemen
  Crisp collared shirts with chinos or nice trousers are usually suitable – unless it specially mentions black tie. A tie or blazer is optional for a more relaxed Aussie gathering, but always check the venue’s guidelines.
• Footwear
  Heels or dressy flats for the ladies, while men can opt for loafers or dress shoes. If you’re hosting outside, consider your surfaces—no one wants to sink into the lawn!
• Comfort Matters
  Remember, high tea isn’t a rushed affair. You’ll be sitting, sipping, and savouring for a couple of hours, so dress comfortably yet elegantly.

High Tea Entertainment Ideas

Hosting a high tea isn’t just about food and drink; entertainment can take your event to the next level, transforming an afternoon of chatting into a memorable experience.

Classical Music and Live Performances

1. String Quartets, Pianists, or Harpists: If your budget allows, live music can add a refined touch. A gentle string quartet or a harpist sets a mellow, sophisticated tone. For smaller or more intimate gatherings, a single pianist might provide just the right ambience.
2. Booking and Logistics: When hiring live musicians, consider the size of your space and the length of the event. Typically, an hour or two of music is perfect. Make sure the performance doesn’t overpower conversation—background music should enhance, not dominate.
3. Alternative Genres: If classical isn’t your style, consider soft jazz, acoustic guitar, or even a lounge singer. The key is to keep it tasteful and not too loud.

Interactive Activities

1. Tea-Related Games
   Parlour games like tea-themed trivia or guessing different tea blends by scent can be fun. They spark conversation and engage guests without losing that sense of elegance.
2. Workshops
   
   • Flower Arranging: Invite a local florist to demonstrate and let guests create their own floral centrepieces to take home.
   • Tea Blending: Provide various dried herbs, spices, and teas, and let attendees craft their signature blend.
   • Dessert Decorating: A mini cupcake or biscuit decorating station can be a crowd-pleaser—just be mindful of messy icing!
3. Photo Corners
   Set up a small area with an attractive backdrop or a floral arch, complete with props like vintage teacups or ornate frames. Guests can snap Instagram-worthy photos, creating extra fun and lasting memories.

Selecting Suitable Entertainment Providers

1. Experience and Style: Look for entertainers who have experience with intimate, refined events. A band that typically plays loud pub rock might not be the best fit for high tea.
2. Budget Considerations: Live performers, workshop hosts, and additional décor can add costs. Decide what’s most important for your event’s ambiance. Sometimes a single musician or a simple floral workshop is enough to make the day special.
3. Local Recommendations: Seek out small businesses, local artists, and entertainers near you. They might offer packages tailored to high tea events and could bring a unique Aussie flavour to your afternoon.

Host A High Tea Yourself

Hosting a high tea in Australia combines the elegance of British tradition with the laid-back creativity that defines our local culture. While the concept might have originated overseas, Aussies have made it uniquely our own by mixing timeless rituals with modern touches, native ingredients, and relaxed conviviality.

When planning your high tea, remember these key points:

• Honour Tradition
  Start with the classic format: delicate finger sandwiches, warm scones, and a sweet finale of pastries and cakes. Complement these with a variety of teas—preferably some local blends—to showcase the flavours of Australia.
• Add a Personal Twist
  Experiment with modern menu items, fusion flavours, and dietary-friendly options to ensure every guest feels welcome. Don’t forget to create a beautiful atmosphere with thematic décor, melodic music, and thoughtful touches like fresh flowers.
• Mind Your Etiquette
  Encourage guests to take it slow, chat, and really savour the moment. Simple courtesies—proper cup-holding, neat stirring, polite conversation—create a sense of occasion that sets high tea apart from a regular catch-up.
• Dress for Success
  High tea often calls for smart casual or semi-formal attire. Ladies might don a comfortable yet stylish dress, while gentlemen can opt for collared shirts and chinos. If it’s a special celebration, feel free to go the extra mile with hats, fascinators, or statement accessories.
• Entertain with Taste
  Consider subtle, sophisticated entertainment that doesn’t overshadow the main event: great conversation, beautiful food, and delightful tea. Whether it’s a string quartet, a tea-blending workshop, or simply some gentle background jazz, the right choice of entertainment can make your high tea unforgettable.

Above all, remember that the heart of high tea is about bringing people together in a warm, inviting space to share both food and conversation. With the right combination of carefully crafted bites, aromatic teas, and engaging entertainment, you can host a high tea that captures the best of both tradition and innovation—a gathering your guests will cherish in true Australian style. Reach out to us today at Onstage for any event planning assistance for your high tea.